"I want to wear heels, but I'm not confident enough". "That would never look good on me". Those are just a couple of phrases that I've heard from friends or others around me. Have you ever said one of these phrases or phrases similar to these? Have you ever avoided a clothing store or a particular clothing item because you didn't think you were good enough to wear something or because you were afraid of being judged? If so, I am going to share with you my secret to conquering these fashion fears.
Ok. Here it is. Wear what you want to wear, shop where you want to shop, and don't look for anyone's approval. That's the secret. I know. It's a lot easier said than done, but that's it. Before I wrote this post, I had a whole mental list of getting over fashion fears that included things like, "Step 1: Blah blah blah...", but the easiest and stress-free thing that can be done is to simply wear what you want, and not care what others are going to say about it. Ask yourself, "Do I want to wear this?". If the answer is yes, then wear it. "Do I want to shop here?" If the answer is yes, then shop there!
When people judge you because of the way you choose to dress, it really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with something personal going on with them. I was sitting with some people once who were making fun of something a girl was wearing and saying it was ugly and yadda yadda yadda. When I looked over at that girl, she was smiling and laughing and having a good time being herself! When I looked at the people talking about her, they looked angry, but they also looked a little sad.
My Sunday school teacher from a church I used to go to was really stylish. She kinda looked like a rock star-- no joke. She told me about this incident where someone judged her because she wore a choker to a church service and said she was being unholy and disrespectful, so she came in the next Sunday with a black choker around her neck, and she was dressed in all black. She was who she was, and I admired that!
Choosing not to wear something because you feel that you'll be judged only results in your own unhappiness. Don't let others take away your happiness.
I cared about fashion then but it didn't show much. I'd see cute clothing in magazines and in the store but never saw myself wearing any of those things. When I came home from school one day, my mom said, "Come on. We're going to go get you some clothes so you can stop wearing those sweatpants everyday". She took me to Belk and let me pick out whatever I wanted. There was a teenage girl working there at the time, and with her help and my mom's, I found some really cute outfits to wear that I felt great in. Overtime I grew more confident and became more open to wearing other things. I'm relatively the same size that I was then, so I still wear most of the clothing that I got from that first Belk visit. My jeans in the picture above are from that visit!
My whole point is, wear what you want to wear regardless of other people criticizing you. If it's you criticizing yourself, start simply by wearing one thing you really want to wear or try out. Think about how it makes you feel. If it feels good taking that plunge, try wearing something else you'd like to try and keep going from there.
If this post helped you at all, please let me know and pass it on to someone else you think may benefit from reading it.
Thank you, have a fabulous day. :)